This month RSM will be doing a series discovering the keys to bridging the divide in our homes. Most students say that there is constant tension between them and their parents and parents often have no idea how to deal with their teenager. We are going to explore some ways to help you.
Last night we talked about consideration. The idea of forgiveness because frankly being a parent is hard. It amazes me how preachers will say so sweepingly that if you want to learn how to be a good parent just read the Bible…well let’s look at the first few parents.
- Adam and Eve (the first kids) disobeyed, lied and got kicked out of the house.
- Adam’s son killed his brother
- Abram slept with his wife’s maid
- Abraham tried to sacrifice his son (still not sure that’s a bad idea in some cases)
- Jacob played favorites
- David’s sons were rapists, murders and one tried to overthrow him
THESE ARE THE HEROES OF THE FAITH! If they can’t get this parenting thing right what are we gonna do? Well we are to model the heart of God…and as you look through the scriptures you find some characteristics of God that make a good parent. These are the things I’d like you to pray through and discuss with your children this week.
A good parent…
1) Loves
The overwhelming story of Jesus is love. His love for people and his ability to see through people’s stuff and simply love them. How are you showing your love for your children? Are you telling your children that you love them daily? (1 John 4:19)
2) Disciplines
Sin should always and will always be dealt with by consequences. Consequences should be fair and consistent (that is another blog). Rather than react to a situation, sit down with your child and ahead of time inform them of the consequences that will be laid down if they break the rules. And then without emotion enforce the consequence when needed. (Proverbs 3:11-12)
3) Forgives
When your child makes a mistake remember they are learning, growing and testing this thing called life. Don’t lord a mistake over them forever. Forgive them. (Matthew 6:14-15)
4) Encourages
I did a poll with over 300 students responding when asked which of these qualities they wish their parents did more, this one was overwhelmingly the most needed. Students rarely feel encouraged from their parents. When you held them in your arms when they were a baby, didn’t you have hopes and dreams for them? Continue to speak that into your teens lives. Let them know that they can do anything…praise them when they shine. (Psalm 139)
Last night the students prayed a prayer of forgiveness for their parents, understanding that parenting is difficult and their parents are people too under pressure from the world and others and they prayed that God would/could bridge this divide in our homes.
Parents use this info to begin a dialogue in your home this week.
Sean Rheaume 