Get Straight

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For the last two weeks I have been in some pretty significant pain in my shoulder, neck and left arm.  I took enough tylenol and Aleve to destroy three livers and the pain didn’t go away and so I took the advice of several people and went to see a chiropractor.  After about a dozen X-rays, Dr. Youngblood showed me why I was having so much trouble.  The top of my neck was jacked up pretty bad and the base of my neck was compressed and the top of my spine was crooked in the wrong direction.  In Chiro terms I was “out of alignment”.  For the last week I have gone almost everyday to have him crack my back working it back into place.  It is fascinating really and not unlike our lives.

Too many times we let our lives get compressed, out of whack and basically out of alignment.  We put too much business in our lives.  We place too much burden on our selves to achieve.  We concentrate on pleasing the wrong people in our lives.  Dr. Youngblood told me that once the spine is corrected, all of the nerves will operate as they should.  In other words straighten yourself out and things work out.

It reminds me of a verse in scripture.  Proverbs 3:5-6 says 5Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. 6In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight.

Our lives get crooked when we trust in the wrong things like work, peoples opinions, wealth.  We get out of alignment when we treat the LORD lightly.  The verse says trust him with ALL of our heart.

We also get out of line when WE try to do it all ALONE.  The creator of the universe has offered you a hand.  Let him help.  Allow God to make your paths straight.  Don’t wait for the pain to come.  Come to Jesus now.  Seek him today and get aligned.

Choices

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Last night in our Family Devotion we talked about the story of Adam and Eve.  I turned the story to a lesson on choices.  I asked Sean Thomas, my four year old, what are good choices?  He replied “to be a good boy”.  That is a good start.

Everyday we make choices.  We choose to eat a banana or a donut for breakfast.  We choose to sleep in or snooze.  We choose to open Facebook or do our jobs.  We have choices to make.  Every choice will alter your day/mood/direction.

Make sure somewhere in your day (preferably early in the day) you choose Jesus.  Take a moment to stop and listen for the voice of God.  The enemy wants to entice you and distract you, faithfulness is a choice.  You must choose daily to follow God.

Which way will you choose?

Just something to think about.

Do you like me?

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I know we all love our kids…sometimes I get that it is hard to LIKE our kids.  Sometimes they can be unlikable.  There have been brief moments where I didn’t like all three of my kids.  I say brief because I think my kids are a trip most of the time.  However, a note ended up on my desk that forced me to think through this like/love thing between parents and kids.

My oldest daughter just turned 12 and she is an incredible young lady that loves Jesus and is full of life and ambition.  I love the fact that even in her preteen years she still gives her daddy a kiss on the cheek when she goes to bed (even when she has company over!) We have a very good relationship and I thought I was doing pretty well with her until a few weeks ago I got this note on my desk.  She wrote it on a Wednesday night so I didn’t get it until late that night as I was closing up the church but when I read it I sunk.

How in the world of all people can SHE feel I didn’t like her!?  I know I’m busy, I know Sean Thomas is the boy in the family and I give him some extra attention but how?  But instead of defending my parenting skills and thinking about how unreasonable the question was I decided to make it clear to her that yes…I do like her.  With a secular/sexual world clambering for her attention, she will know that her daddy likes her.  With boys pawing at her and gawking at her, she will know that her daddy likes her.  With my baby girl growing up so fast and will soon be moving on…she will know that her daddy likes her.

I don’t always get this parenting thing right.  I tend to be too distracted.  I tend to sweat the small stuff way too often and I forget the moments.  However, it is the moments that little girls need from their daddies.  They are moments that keep them connected. I need to do more sitting, more listening, more laughing and more hugging.  Cause I like my kids.

Folly Beach Gator

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There has been a lot of discussion about the Beach Gator. A 10 footer that found his way onto Folly Beach. It even made the local news in my hometown in Columbus Ga. There is a lot you can learn from that gator.

1) The FB gator like many people took a wrong turn and ended up where they didn’t belong. In life you usually have a good plan but end up shifting here or shifting there and before long you are nowhere near where you wanted to be.
2) Sometimes you just don’t have the strength to get out of the mess you are in. I heard a lot of “experts” say that it is common for fresh water gators to swim through brackish waters but sometimes if they are weak or the current is strong they get carried away. Well this is a 10 foot gator so he must have been weak to get carried away. In life we find ourselves taking shortcuts and are not strong enough to get out of the mess we are in. Enter the importance of Connection Groups. One person may be weak but together we are strong.
3) Lastly, sometimes when you end up where you don’t belong you get shot. Now, I don’t mean this literally (although I could). Sometimes simply being in the wrong place can ruin your reputation, your career, your relationships. Be careful.

1 Peter 5:8-9

8Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 9Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.

A lot to be learned from the infamous Folly Beach gator…what do you think?

Why we need Superheros

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I have to admit I love Super Hero movies.  I love the Marvel Universe.  I love Thor, Iron Man, Hulk, Captain America and Spider Man and I am just as geeked out over the DC Comics world Batman, Superman and the rest of the Justice League.  Add to that the Transformers and the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and you have an inner 12 year old going out of his mind.

However, it begs the question.  Why?  Why all of a sudden the overwhelming bombardment of Superhero movies, TV shows and fascination.  It has always been popular but I’ve never seen it like this.  So you must ask why?  The skeptic would say because people keep spending money to watch it.  Yes, that is why Hollywood is making them but what is our fascination?

I believe it is really quite simple.  We need heroes.  In a world so polarized where according to the talking heads on TV depending on which channel you are watching one group is always evil.  If you watch MSNBC then the Republicans are evil and don’t care about anyone.  If you watch FOX then the Democrats are evil and don’t care about anyone.  We hear conservative preachers call the liberals false prophets and we hear the liberal preachers call the conservative ones Pharisees.

It is hard to swim through the quagmire and determine what is good.

I was teaching a Bible Study the other day and we were unpacking Galatians 5:22, the Fruit of the Spirit.  When it came to discussing Goodness, I noticed the group had a hard time nailing down what was “good”.  That is how we have drifted.  We can’t define good.

Our society is getting more and more morally vague.  It is frightening.  Everyone wants to discuss moral issues without bringing up morality.  We turn on a football game and have to hear about the courage of homosexuals.  We hear stories of terror and focus on the plight of the terrorist.  We are losing our compass.  Mainly because we are forgetting to talk.  Facebook memes have replaced water cooler discussions for framing our opinions.  Tweets out of emotion trump a well thought out opinion.

Jesus said in Mark 4:21-23

21 He said to them, “Do you bring in a lamp to put it under a bowl or a bed? Instead, don’t you put it on its stand? 22 For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed, and whatever is concealed is meant to be brought out into the open. 23 If anyone has ears to hear, let them hear.”

God is good.  His truth is good.  His message is good.  It is not meant to be hidden or cloaked or watered down.  It is meant to be out there shining a light for all to see.  If anyone has ears to hear…let them hear.

Let them hear what is good.  Then, maybe we won’t NEED the Hero movies so much.  But, I hope they still keep on making them!

God’s got this. 2014

2013 was quite a year!  At the beginning of the year I was unemployed finishing school and at about the lowest point I have ever been.  I had a few leads for employment but it was an email out of nowhere that ultimately caught my attention.  A baptist church on James Island was looking for their next Family Pastor and after some incredible meetings I became the new Family Pastor at James Island Baptist Church.  My wife got a job teaching at James Island Middle and my kids absolutely love the island life.

I finished my bachelors degree this year, a project sadly to say took me this long but I finished it nonetheless.  I look forward to 2014 with a joy and hope that I haven’t felt in a long time.  I really believe that this can be the best year ever.  I can see that it will come with some challenges.  My pop’s health is deteriorating, my daughter will begin Middle School in 2014 and I will turn 40.  However, I have a renewed fire in my spirit for the church and ministry and my family is healthy spiritually, emotionally and physically.  I love my church, my pastor and my new friends.  

2014…is gonna be a great year.

Psalm 139 says that the Lord knows everything about us before we make the first move and that knowledge is too wonderful for us to handle.  

I am believing that God has a plan for me and it is a great plan, a fun plan, an adventure…I am simply going to submit to him and follow his plan.  

He holds 2014 in his hands.  Let’s go enjoy it.

Best Friends

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I had one of those daddy moments yesterday.  You know the kind that just makes your chest explode with love and makes you wanna snot all over yourself because of your unworthiness.  My son rode home with me after lunch.  He predictably fell asleep and as I carried him to his room, took off his sneakers and covered him up with his favorite blanket, he sleepily mumbled, “your my best friend dad”.  I must admit I am misty even now writing about it.  I whispered to him that he was mine too.  Kissed his cheek and let him sleep.

Those moments are moments a parent lives for.  I love my 3 kids more than life itself.  I love that my girls snuggle with their daddy.  I love that they will let me help them with their homework and I love that they love our daddy “dates”.  

I hope that my kids will always see me as their best friend…I just have to remind myself that I am not.

Not their friend that is.  I am their parent.  I have to make tough choices FOR them.  I have to discipline them.  I have to be the last word.  Friendships come and go. I need to be steady.

But…for now he is 3 and if he says I am his best friend…I will take it…every loving second of it.

 

Dubious Honor

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AFTER 21 YEARS, I AM GRADUATING.

After 3 years at Columbus State University majoring in History I dropped out…primarily because I actually majored in work, goofing off and hanging at the Baptist Student Union.  

I transfered to Charleston Southern University.  There, I majored in Youth Ministry and did the dumbest thing in my life.  As a cocky young kid, I decided to DO ministry instead of learn about ministry.

I dropped out.

18 months ago I decided to go back.  I wanted to complete something.  I wanted to show my kids that education is important.  I wanted to learn how to be a better pastor.  So as humiliating as it was to return to school I did.  I’m the old guy that got his degree.  I received a Bachelor of Arts in Religion from Luther Rice University.  

It is a dubious honor … dubious because it took me so long to recognize the importance, dubious because I know education and knowledge are important yet I treated it so lightly…but I am still proud.  I am still excited.  I am as excited as the 22 year olds that are walking down the isles. 

There will be no rest for the weary…I am beginning in January my work on my Masters Degree in Christian Education through Liberty University.

Walking Dead Evangelism part 3

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How to keep from being zombied

I am going to train you how to keep from being zombied.  Because this is all for nothing if you end up falling to the wrong side and yes…you can find yourself alive in Christ today and spiritually dead tomorrow…if not your salvation your ability to be used by God.

There are 4 ways to protect yourself.

1) Protect your brains (in all the zombie movies the zombies just shuffle around looking to eat your brains so they can sustain.)

What do you think about?

Pro 23:7 7 for he is the kind of man 
who is always thinking about the cost. 
“Eat and drink,” he says to you, 
but his heart is not with you.

Phil 4:8

8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

2) Don’t let your guard down (whew we made it…BAM! Hands through windows)

Always be ready, remember the enemy is relentless.

1 Thess 5:6

6. so then let us not sleep, as do the rest, but let us watch and be alert.

3) Don’t hang around graveyards (people always end up at graveyards in zombie movies…why?!?)

Don’t hang out where the spiritually dead thrive.  Parties, back seats, home alone etc…these temptations are where they thrive and will overwhelm you

Matthew 26:41

41 Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.

4) Don’t do life alone (I’ll be right back means I’m about to be eaten in the movies)

Small groups are important.  Get in one.

Do these things, and you can find it easier to navigate this world full of the spiritually dead.

Walking Dead Evangelism part 2

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HOW TO KILL A (SPIRITUAL) ZOMBIE

So when you come across a zombie you have two responses.

1) Run

2) Fight

Too many believers of Jesus are choosing option number 1.

Matthew 11:12

We are to be a force…we are to become ZOMBIE KILLERS!!!!!

So…it begs the question how do you kill a zombie…

This is how you kill a zombie…

In order to kill a zombie you must bring it to life.  You can’t kill something that is already dead.

To bring a zombie to life you must…

1) Share your LIFELet people know that you are a believer.  Don’t be afraid.  Stand Firm.

2) Invest in their LIFE…truly care about them and invite them to worship with you.  Studies show most will attend church if only invited.

3) Bring LIFE allow for open spiritual conversations and be willing and able to tell them how to surrender their life to Jesus.

How:

Admit that you are a sinner and are in need of Jesus

Believe that Jesus is God’s son and paid your sin debt

Confess to Jesus that you surrender your life to him and change your life accordingly

4) Do LIFEWalk with them in the journey.  Don’t just leave them do life with them.

Bringing the spiritually dead to life is the only way to kill a zombie.